The way of the
world
MILLAMANT: Vanity! No—I'll fly and be followed to the last
moment; though I am upon the very verge of matrimony, I expect you should
solicit me as much as if I were wavering at the grate of a monastery, with one
foot over the threshold. I'll be solicited to the very last; nay, and
afterwards. Oh, I hate a lover that can dare to think he draws a moment's air
independent on the bounty of his mistress. There is not so impudent a thing in
nature as the saucy look of an assured man confident of success: the pedantic
arrogance of a very husband has not so pragmatical an air. Ah, I'll never
marry, unless I am first made sure of my will and pleasure. I'll lie a-bed in a
morning as long as I please. And d'ye hear, I won't be called names after I'm
married; positively I won't be called names—Ay, as "wife,"
"spouse," "my dear," "joy," "jewel,"
"love," "sweet-heart," and the rest of that nauseous cant,
in which men and their wives are so fulsomely familiar—I shall never bear that.
Good Mirabell, don't let us be familiar or fond, nor kiss before folks, like my
Lady Fadler and Sir Francis; nor go to Hyde Park together the first Sunday in a
new chariot, to provoke eyes and whispers, and then never be seen there
together again, as if we were proud of one another the first week, and ashamed
of one another ever after. Let us never visit together, nor go to a play
together, but let us be very strange and well-bred. Let us be as strange as if
we had been married a great while, and as well-bred as if we were not married
at all. I must be at liberty to pay and receive visits to and from whom I
please; to write and receive letters, without interrogatories or wry faces on
your part; to wear what I please, and choose conversation with regard only to
my own taste; to have no obligation upon me to converse with wits that I don't
like, because they are your acquaintance, or to be intimate with fools, because
they may be your relations. Come to dinner when I please, dine in my
dressing-room when I'm out of humor, without giving a reason. To have my closet
inviolate; to be sole empress of my tea-table, which you must never presume to
approach without first asking leave. And lastly, wherever I am, you shall
always knock at the door before you come in. These articles subscribed, if I
continue to endure you a little longer, I may by degrees dwindle into a wife.
Analysis
To me this extract seems like a woman who lives in a world
where women are trapped, she doesn’t want to be trapped “the way of the world”
this shows that she cannot do anything about it and that’s just the way it is.
She wants to be free to make her own choices and do what she wants to do “No—I'll
fly” this metaphor shows she is a powerful woman possibly quite young and naïve
thinking that she will change things, this empowers the reader (especially if
the reader is a woman).
She almost laughs at the names married women get “"jewel,"
"love," "sweet-heart," and the rest of that nauseous cant,
in which men and their wives are so fulsomely familiar” she sounds disgusted at
the fact that as soon as you are married you are labelled with these names she
finds them unbearable and horrific. She
sounds quite jealous of men “to have no obligation upon me to converse with
wits that I don't like, because they are your acquaintance” she despises the
fact that women have to follow their men and do whatever their men say just
because they are a man and she a woman, this shows the diversity between men
and women in the 1700s years but it shows this through a woman of that eras
point of view, I like the fact that she opens up her hatred of “the way of the
world” through her writing. The fact that she writes it possibly instead of
saying it to somebody shows that men still have that power over her, because
she can’t say it and she can only write it makes the reader feel quite sympathetic
towards women in the 1700s to have lived under men’s rule and not be able to do
anything about it.
She compares the relationship she may have to have with the
relationships of others and states that they will all go the same way “like my
Lady Fadler and Sir Francis; nor go to Hyde Park together the first Sunday in a
new chariot, to provoke eyes and whispers, and then never be seen there
together again, as if we were proud of one another the first week, and ashamed
of one another ever after.” She mimics the others relationships by being very
sarcastic but quite blunt in what she says. She makes it out as if she has seen
a million relationships and they have all gone the same way and they all will,
almost like it is a curse placed upon men and women to never truly have a happy
marriage. This gives the reader an insight into what marriage really was like
in the 1700s and that most of the time it was quite unhappy marriages possibly
making the reader greatful that the times have changed so much now that we are
lucky that we can choose what we do with our lives and who we spend it with.